I’ve used all of the below 10 things at certain points when I’m sober. Though they are all things I take partake in when I’m drinking, I do them with a lot more love and meaning when I’m clearheaded and sober.
1. Flirt with your partner.
I like to take my partner to a new restaurant, make a conscious effort to put my phone in my bag or pocket, and ask her questions about herself. I’ve found, that sometimes being in a new setting can add a nice dose of heat to an otherwise ordinary night. Also, flirting without alcohol can feel scary at first (and always), so I try to remind myself that I am safe, I am loved, and I am ready for new experiences even when they’re a little (or a lot) uncomfortable.
2. Eat a new food.
I bet there’s a food you’ve been dying to try. Get takeout or better yet get all dressed up and take your self out. Bring a book, order a cranberry and club soda, people watch.
3. Make a gratitude list. Use watercolors.
Tammi Salas was the first person who taught me about gratitude lists. I hadn’t made art or used paints/watercolors since high school. I thought I couldn’t. Sobriety has always made me braver. When I make when I’m clearheaded, I feel the closest to my work. Try a notebook like this one and these watercolors.
4. Watch a new show on Netflix.
5. Read. One chapter. Or 5.
I just posted a list the other day of 8 recovery books that you might want to check out. But, if you’re looking for a good novel these are a few suggestions: The Husband’s Secret, The Girl on the Train, Little Fires Everywhere, and Where’d You Go Bernadette.
6. Buy a new water bottle. Add lemon or berries.
I really love my Hydro Flask, I think mostly because it’s bright pink.
7. Write. Tell your story out loud. Or tell a friend.
Journal. Morning pages. Blog. WordPress is easy to use. Ask a friend for a coffee or tea. All good ideas to get out of your own head and into the world/onto the page.
8. Get a new hobby.
Knit. Thrift. Sing. Dance. Pottery. Art. Etc.
9. Dance. Move. It. Out.
10. Tell yourself you are loved. Repeat 1-10 as much as you can.
I love you, too.